Live The Life You Want To Live

The American life is interesting.

It’s not always great.

It’s not always bad.

But it is interesting.

We have so much freedom in America. Or at least it seems we do. Or at least we do in comparison to other countries. We have the right to free speech– which really is the most amazing thing. I am forever grateful for this right.

Americans are also given the right to the pursuit of happiness. But, I think this really throws people for a loop. Why? Well, it’s not the right to happiness, but rather, the right to the pursuit of happiness. What does this mean?

I think it means that we have the right to chase after happiness– to go for the gold, to be ambitious, to try and get what we want.

So, is that problematic? Not exactly. Not in and of itself, no. But I do think it throws people off, so to speak, because this chase– this consistent need to achieve and gain something– keeps us in a constant state of motion where we are always after the next goal. We haven’t even stopped to enjoy the kill before we are off attacking our next prey.

I think this is why happiness alludes so many Americans. I speak to America because I am an American and I am not knowledgable enough about other countries and cultures to speak about their levels of happiness and contentment.

I think we all need to stop for a second, or at least slow down, and ask ourselves, “What exactly does the life I want to live look like?” Not the life someone else has or wants– not the life society, the media, or our parents tell us we should want– but the life we actually desire. Maybe that life doesn’t include a million dollars. Is that okay? Fuck yeah, you better believe it is. I think ambition goes a long way, but pure joy that comes from within goes a lot further.

Some people are going to be happy with corporate or office jobs. Other people are going to be happy teaching in a classroom. Some will be happy as painters, writers, and musicians. Some people will be happy working retail or cleaning houses. The point is that we need to do what will make our lives truly content by doing what is naturally calling to us. This is what that freedom– that right that is given to us– could mean. It’s possible that your calling will mean you become a PhD or a CEO. And that’s awesome. But if your calling is to be a mechanic, a stay-at-home mom, or an aspiring artist, then that’s equally awesome.

This same calling can be attributed to all parts of our lives– not just our careers and jobs. It’s in everything. It’s in how you look, what your hobbies are, how you keep your house, etc. You can observe and notice what other people are doing, but ultimately, you need only take what works for you and leave the rest. Be yourself. Be wholly and unabashedly you. And then love every teensy-weensy part of it.

We are all one and we are all in this together. No one is better. No one is worse. We are all equal. Don’t compete for what other people want– just go after what you truly and genuinely want for yourself. Find your calling from within and you can find joy in this life.

Namaste. Xo

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Acceptance

I accept myself 100%. I am troubled sometimes, yes, but I am learning. My eyes are closed sometimes, yes, but mostly they are open. I have setbacks, yes, but everyday, hour, and moment is a chance to start over. I am starting over. I have strong emotions, yes, but this makes me genuine, passionate, and expressive, and I am learning to express them in healthy ways. This is beauty. I have expectations sometimes, yes, but I am learning to let them go. I worry and have anxiety sometimes, yes, but I am learning to breathe in the present moment. The here and now. I have needs, yes, but I am learning to express them. I still need other people, yes, but it is becoming less and less because I am learning to give myself what I need. My vibration goes negative sometimes, yes, but I am learning to realign it to a more positive vibration. I still get sad sometimes, yes, but I am learning to be happier. I still have more to learn, yes, but I am learning to recognize my improvements and give myself some credit. I don’t have to be perfect because I am perfect just the way I am. I still put my star in other people’s hands sometime, yes, but I am learning to take it back and keep it in my own hands. I reject my experiences sometimes, yes, but I know that Karma has agreements with my soul that have already been made and that I need to accept all of my experiences. I forget to trust the Universe sometimes, yes, but I know that I can trust it and that it’s always taking care of me.

I am lucky.

I am grateful.

I am love.

I am lucky.

I am grateful.

I am love.

Cheers, tears, and self-love,

-A Xo

I Love My Soul.

Screen Shot 2014-06-05 at 1.19.55 PMEveryday I ask myself: What do I love about you?

The past couple of months I’ve come up with all sorts of things. Recently, however, I’ve noticed a recurring theme. My soul is f’n kickass. That’s right. I have the coolest, most badass, rocking, awesome, inspirational soul in the world. She’s the best and I love her. (Note: I am referring to her as a female, but that’s only because I am a female. I don’t actually believe my soul has a gender.)

My soul never, ever lets me down. She knows exactly what I need. She will never abandon me. She knows what experiences I need in order to heal and grow. She makes sure that I stay safe, happy, and always learning. My soul is the most dependable and reliable source of energy, growth, and wisdom.

My soul is incredibly intuitive. She’s always been– even when I was a kid. She only lets me feel fear that is real. I don’t have unnecessary fear, but when something is unsafe, I feel an intuitive pull that guides me to a better place. I am so thankful for my intuition. My intuition helps me make the best decisions. I always follow my intuition, my heart– my soul.

I never reject my experiences because I know my soul would never put me in a situation that I didn’t need to be in. I know that Karma has led me to wherever I go. I believe that the lessons I learn are exactly the lessons I need to learn, and that through any challenge I face, there is something for me to gain. I search for these opportunities to grow, and I am rewarded with strength and development. How lucky I am to have a soul that helps me do this.

My soul has endless, boundless, unconditional, unabashed love for me. She reminds me everyday that I am made of pure, divine, unconditional love, and that I have an open heart that is also full and full and FULL of love. I can feel this love every minute of every day. For this I am lucky.

My soul reminds me that while I crave human connection and have boundless love for everyone and everything, I also have all the love I’d ever need right here in my own little heart. My soul will never abandon me, and I will never abandon myself, and because of this, I could never, ever show others how to abandon me either. The love I have in my heart is enough to fill a thousand, thousand hearts and more. I could never stop loving. It will just flow and flow and flow out of me. The gratitude I feel for this is grand. Grand and whole and endless.

With this gratitude, this love, and this energy, I send love, love, and more love out to the rest of the world. I shine my light of love onto everyone. Please join me in my love, for it is pure, divine, and unconditional. And it feels so, so good.

Namaste, ya’ll.

-A Xo

I’m a Yogi

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I’m a yogi. A true, genuine, loving, compassionate, happy, friendly yogi. And I love every second of it.

Yoga has been one of the most, if not the most, beneficial thing in my life– physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually. It has given me more than anything has ever give me. Time, space, appreciation, love, clarity, meditation, physique, happiness, trust, strength, gratitude. These are all things yoga has given me.

I love my yoga mat. It’s just a simple, red-orange one. It’s nothing fancy. Most of the times I put a towel over it because I don’t want to get tons of sweat on it, but I love that yoga mat like it’s a part of me. I love it like it’s a family member. I can picture it right now hanging over my closet door.

My favorite type of yoga is hot vinyasa yoga. I love the flow. I love the concentration. I love the breathing. I love the energy. I love the heat. I’ve never felt more cleansed, satisfied, full of love, and full of life as I have when I’ve finished a hot yoga class.

I am doing a hot yoga teacher training this summer and I cannot wait! I could not be more pumped about it. I am looking forward to deepening my practice, learning more about yoga, and becoming a bigger part of the yogi community. I plan on sharing everything I learn here. I think the benefits would surprise you, so if you haven’t had a chance to try yoga yet, do it now. It’s worth it. Trust me!

Namaste.

Cheers, tears, and self-love,

-A Xo

Patience as a Value

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Patience.

Does anyone really have it?

Yes, of course. They must! I, unfortunately, have found patience to be one of the most difficult things to possess. It’s hard to conjure up, it’s hard to keep once I do have it, and it’s hard to recognize that I’m being impatient in the first place.

But yet, it’s so important.

And why exactly is it so important?

It’s important because it contributes to happiness and inner peace. I think a lack of patience can lead to anxiety and unhappy feelings. And, really, why are we always in such a rush anyway? Why don’t we accept more things as they are? If things were supposed to be moving faster, then… wouldn’t they be moving faster?

My biggest problem with patience comes when I want something to happen. Nothing can move fast enough and I will impatiently wait for this “thing” to happen. And you know what? That “thing” happens and nothing really changes. Being impatient is like waiting for the future, and while you wait for the future, you miss the present moment, the here and now, your true life.

What is life if not your present moment? Sure, we have memories of the past, and we think about the future, but are those real-life? Not really. Your real life is the moment that is happening right this second in front of you. My life right now is writing this article. Your life right now is reading this article. Nothing else really matters. If you can enjoy this very moment, then you can be happy. And if you live every moment that way, then wouldn’t you always be happy?

It sounds so easy, and I know it gets easier and easier the more you practice, but I don’t think it starts off that way. I do think, though, that there is a direct link between patience and happiness. Being patient means that you can see the value of your present moment and you’re not just looking forward to the next thing. When that next thing does happen, great! But being impatient means stressing and over-thinking, distracting yourself from your reality. And that’s where unhappiness begins.

So, how do we cultivate patience? I think it’s about always staying in the present moment, in the here and now. Make every moment count. Make every interaction matter. Be thankful for each and every moment you have and really live each and everyone of them. That’s your reality. That’s your happiness.

Start by believing it. Try meditating on positive statements such as: I am patient. I am a patient person. I can be patient. I have patience. I have the power to be patient. I am patient. 

Pitch it out there and the Universe will hear you.

Cheers, tears, and self-love,

-A xo

p.s. The here and now, baby!

 

Decision-Making: What’s this now?

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Part of self-love is being confident in your decision-making.

I’ve been thinking about the concept of “decision-making” a whole ton lately. How do I know if I’m making good decisions? If I make a decision, and a not-so-great consequence happens, do I conclude then that I am not a good decision-maker? Does it mean that maybe I just don’t know how to make decisions at all?

But if everyone makes “mistakes” and we all find ourselves faced with negative consequences from time to time (since we all know that is a part of life), then what does good decision-making look like?

Here’s what I’ve come up with: (Feel free to share your thoughts)

Making good decisions means following my heart at the time the decision is being made. Whatever my heart tells me to do, that’s the good decision. Another word for heart may be intuition. Each of has our own unique way of following our hearts/intuition. Call it whatever you want, I believe the concept is the same.

I know there are people who will disagree with this. They may say that we need our brains, our minds, more than anything. However, I believe if we use our minds too much, our egos may err on the side of worry and fear and consider the future or past experiences too much.

What I have to say is this: I believe the heart does this kind of juicy stuff anyway, but in a less ego-like way. I believe the heart considers the past, the present, and the future while it’s guiding you into making a decision. I think the heart knows to consider what you’ve learned from experiences in the past and your heart is mindful of your future self, and it has the ability to connect these two states to the present moment, to the here and now, and then it allows you to know what it best for you.

What this translates to is that if you’ve been following your heart when making your decisions, then you don’t need to question what you’ve done in the past, what you are doing right now, or what you are going to do in the future because each and every one of the decisions that got you here were all right.

“Mistakes” are only opportunities to learn and grow. They are not reasons a decision shouldn’t have been made. Hogwash! “Mistakes” are not reasons something shouldn’t have happened. What hooey! “Mistakes” just indicate there is something to be gained and learned, and that it’s time to choose differently.

Align your truth with your heart and you will always get to where you are supposed to be. It’s then that we can be safe and secure and know we are making good decisions. If you are following your heart right now, then this is exactly where you are supposed to be. If you’re experiencing a “mistake” then ask yourself what you can learn (and keep in mind that the shadow is just part of the journey).

When we find our truths and align it with our hearts, we can be anywhere we want to be.

In conclusion, if I my life by this value, living my truth and following my heart, then I really cannot make poor decisions and there really is no such thing as bad decision-making.

How do I find my truth? I find my truth by doing my best, taking responsibility for myself, working towards an even better version of myself, all the while loving and forgiving myself and those around me deeply.

To all the self-lover discoverers out there!

Cheers, tears, and love,

-A xo

I don’t only love, I am love.

I Am The Master Of My Universe

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I am the master of my universe.

I decide my destiny.

Release. Let go. Release. Let go.

I make happen what I want to happen.

I make honesty my divine power.

 

I search for my truth.

I find my truth.

I live my truth.

We are all the masters of our own universes.

I fill my world with love, openness, honesty, and truth. It is a beautiful world because of this love, openness, honesty, and truth.

I forgive. I release. I let go.

I am the one that drives this car.

I am the one that makes my world what I want it to be.

I have power. I have control. I have power.

I am not a victim of anyone, of anything, or of myself.

I accept myself wholly.

I love myself wholly.

I am the best person I can be.

I forgive myself for any hurt I ever caused in the world. I promise to always try to improve myself, my actions, and my behavior.

I commit to making my world a better place.

I commit to choosing to see my world as beautiful.

I commit to sending and receiving positive energy.

I commit to seeing the good in people, including myself.

I commit to love.